Spanksgiving At Club Wish

This Thursday was my first visit to Club Wish. It's a women only BDSM/fetish club in Stockholm.Women of all sizes, shapes, genders and ages are welcome. The theme for the evening was red. Red as in fisting. Which gave me a reason to buy a new top at Eve Collection. A very tight thing with one shoulder bare and chains hanging down the front. A black leather mini skirt, black pantyhose with pink skull and cross bones and black tight boots was the rest of my outfit.

Club Wish is a relatively small club with no place of its own. But SLM, Swedish Leather Men, kindly lets the club use their nice cellar. To get in you press a bell, the door opens and then there is a gate to pass through. All this is to make sure there are no homophobic attacks. The place is perfect for a BDSM club. Lots of bare brick walls, Bars in front of the bar and evocative paraphernalia all over the place.I had volunteered to help and as a newbie I was posted in the cloakroom. There was supposed to be a dress code but this wasn't very strictly applied. The dresses was all the way from almost pedestrian to stark naked with a collar. And it was a good mixture of cis women, F2Ms and M2Fs and more. Styles varied from butch to femme and ages from around twenty to almost eighty.

As the theme of the evening was fisting there was a lecture and talk on the subject. I left the cloakroom for a bit to listen. But my sense of duty made me return. And i think I already know quite a lot on the subject. In fact I was fairly good at it before I knew it had a name. ;-)  Back at the entrance/cloakroom I had a very interesting talk with some F2M folks, mostly what the different needs are for trans women and trans men but also how we could work together and support each other.

I was relieved of my duties around nine, nine thirty and went to the bar to buy a glass of wine. I mingled around a bit but soon found myself at the cloakroom where some interesting folks were to be found. All in all I found Club Wish to have a very welcoming, warm and free atmosphere. I had planned on going home around ten, eleven at the latest. As it were I didn't get home until about two in the morning. I hadn't eaten much during the day and that in combination with Zyban that I take to help me stop smoking made me feel quite tipsy although I only had three glasses of wine.



So what about the spanking? Well I have to confess that it was a cunning way to lure you here. (Thank you LizzY the LezzY for the word spanksgiving.) I didn't see much play nor did I get involved in any myself. I feel like I have to really know someone before I'll engage in any BDSM activity. To me its a tremendously intimate and personal thing. And even if I.yearn with every fibre of my being to have sex with a woman I want to wait until after the GSR for real lesbian sex. I can of course play the giving role with tongue, lips, fingers and hands. I just realised that what it comes down to is that I'm afraid I'll never find some one. What are the odds for a 60 year old lesbian trans woman who also is a BDSM top?

Well, tonight it's time for Whip Club and I think I'll wear the same sexy top as I did a Club Wish. The drawback from my horizon is that most folks at Whip Club are straight.

Kisses, hugs, love and lashes until next time
Caisa

A Rainbow Mass To Celebrate Same Sex Marriage

Last night I violated a 30 years old principle of mine: Never to enter a church when there was a service in progress. Why is a long story that I might tell in my blog My Life So Far.

The reason I did it was that I got invited by  a friend who is one of the organizers behind "Regnbågsmässan", The Rainbow Mass, a monthly event at "Sofia kyrkan", The Sofia Church, in the part of Stockholm called "Söder". It's beautifully situated high up on "Vita Bergen"  I was born just a few blocks from it so if I had been baptised this is the church where it would have happened. I hope to blog more about the concept of "Regnbågsmässan" and the people behind it later.


The theme of last night's mass was to celebrate that the Swedish church have decided to perform same sex marriage ceremonies. It started at 4 pm with opportunities to talk with church officials about weddings, I missed that part as I was buzzy trying to install the latest SuSE to a USB stick. But I was in time for the mass that begun at 6 pm. I was given a book of hymns and took a seat towards the back, near the aisle. At first glance it wasn't any different from the churches I was forced to attend when in school. Then I noticed the garland in rainbow colours hanging from the pulpit. The church slowly filled with people. Well, filled is maybe not the right word. It was about half full when the mass started, which apparently is more than at an ordinary mass. I looked around to get an idea of what kind of folks came to this mass, I tried to not be too obvious less they think I was checking them out for other reasons than reporting in this blog post. :-)

I saw some faces that I recognised, among them the guy I usually buy my tobacco from. The audience was about evenly distributed as to gender, male and female with a sprinkling of trans folks. The age was slightly higher than you usually find at a LGBTQ event.  It might not be surprising to you that I checked out the women more than the men. :-)  Many of the ladies was of the short haired butch style lesbian stereotype, other more "ordinary" and some decidedly femme.

 The mass started with a song performed by Rainbow Gospel Followed by a talk by someone who's name I missed. I don't think he was a priest as he was dressed in an ordinary suite. It was a bit hard to hear what he was saying due to the echo in the church. I didn't catch all  but the gist of it seemed to be that we should be grateful for the decision by the church to perform same sex marriage but also be careful not to alienate those that had opposed it. A middle of the road path I have no sympathy with. Next another song by the choir after which the priest, Malin, entered the stage. Malin is a beautiful brunette. I'd say sexy but can you do that about a priest? She was wearing a sparkly cassock (?) in a rainbow pattern.  The way Malin spoke about love and marriage was more in line with my own thoughts on the subject. After that it was time for us all to sing a hymn. I'm not a Christian and also I didn't know the tune so I was mostly quiet. After that Malin talked about the parable of the ten maidens and the oil lamps. I'm not very familiar with Christian mythology but the conclusion was that she believed that Jesus would welcome everyone to the party, whether they had oil in the lamps or not, whether they were straight or gay. All in all I felt that what she said was something I could agree with.

Next up was Helene Hammarlund , who sang a beautiful Swedish folk song from the balcony. If my back wasn't hurting so by this time it might have caused some tears to trickle down my face. Then came the part that was strangest to me, the communion. I've never been to one of these before and it wasn't so bad as I feared. Malin said some things over the bread and the wine and then there was general hugging and whishings of God  bless and the like. A beautiful black haired woman touched my shoulder and  said May God's love be with you. After this those who were so inclined cued up to get a biscuit dipped in wine. One last hymn and it was over.

I went out for a much needed cig and then joined the cue for wedding cake and coffee. I didn't stay long after that but had some interesting conversations with some likewise interesting people. All in all it was a good experience this my first voluntary visit to a Christian  function. And there is a good chance I'll go to the next mass Dec 12.

 Hugs, kisses, love and lashes until next time

Caisa

Go Ahead And Vote - And Get Ready To Fight

In the US there are some important elections coming up/going on now. Marriage equality, a lesbian mayor and more. I think that those of you that can should vote. I don't think that the outcome of those elections will be anywhere near revolutionary. But they are each a small step forward. Like the decision by the Swedish church to perform same sex marriage ceremonies, or the appointment of a lesbian bishop in Stockholm.

In principle I don't care for the institution of marriage (who wants to live in an institution?) and I care even less for organized religion. But every little step in the LGBT struggle is important to me, not just the issues closest to my heart. Together we're slowly pushing back the homo phobes, fundies and right wing nuts.But they will get more vitriolic, cunning and aggressive as they realize that they're fighting for a lost cause.

In Spain 1936 everyone was sure that the left would win the election, which they did. But the only ones that were ready for the fascist rebellion were the anarchists and the syndicalists. The syndicalist union CNT told it's members: Vote if you want to, but be ready to fight the fascists. If more leftists had listened to that advice Franco might have been crushed in the first few weeks.

Let's not make the same mistake as the Spanish left. Go Ahead And Vote - And Get Ready To Fight!

Hugs, kisses, love and lashes until next time
Caisa 

A Women only BDSM & Fetish Summer Camp in Sweden

A few weeks ago I blogged in a fast forward fantasy about the secret all lesbian town in Sweden. Now it seems we have taken a step in that direction.This is from an e-mail I got yesterday from my friend Angelica:

Wish also want to remind you of Wish Power Exchange, Summer Camp week 29
in 2010!

Wish Power exchange proudly presents summer camp 2010!
Wish invites you to a five-day BDSM and fetish-camp for women* on the
beautiful west coast of Sweden. All meals are included, there will be many
play areas, several workshops and fantastic surroundings to explore. The
surroundings are especially nice if you like to travel by motorcycle.

Members of Wish and their friends have, by this e-mail, a unique chance to
book in advance before the information goes out officially!
The camp will take place during week 29, Wednesday through Sunday. If you
want to arrive earlier in the week it may be possible to arrange, when you
book your stay.  Depending on the number of participants the fee for the
week will approximately be between 2400-2900 SEK.

Wish Power Exchange Summer Camp will be held in a kinky friendly
camp/hostel situated on the west coast of Sweden. In close vicinity lies
Smögen, a picturesque small fishing village that is a favourite
vacation site for tourists. The camp provides newly renovated shower areas
and a relaxing outdoors hot-tub. A sauna is presently being built and
hopefully will be ready in time for the camp. Play spaces are found both
indoors and outdoors, with plenty of bondage- and percussion play
furniture. There is also a separate, lockable underground dungeon for
those who prefer more private play. For those with an attraction to
different role play settings there is a possibility to arrange special
theme areas such as Clinic or Class room.

The accommodations are simple, hostel standards in four-bed rooms.
Depending on the number of participants it may be possible to get a
separate room if you are a couple. Bring your own sheets and towels. If
you prefer, it is possible to bring you own caravan or camper to stay in.
All meals are included in the fee. There will be brunch ca 9-12 AM and
”afternoon tea”, a light meal around 3 PM. We dine together at 7 PM. Those
who want put on their fetish finest for dinner. Fruit and other snacks can
be provided throughout the day. A bar with low prices will be available.

The camp is international and the main languages will be both English and
Swedish.

* As usual Wish's target groups are those who are, have been or live as women.

By replying to this e-mail you can register to the camp or receive further
information;
wishutskick@gmail.com.

More detailed information of the Power Exchange Camp will be emailed later
on to those who register interest.


So, ladies, book you flights.

Hugs, kisses. love and lashes until next time
Caisa